I'm Pregnant, But My Friends Are Drifting Away
Once you find out you are pregnant, your life certainly does change dramatically!
But the changes don't end there. You face new changes and challenges throughout your life as a mother. Some of these changes can be harder to deal with than others. As you enjoy each and every minute of this new big adventure that is pregnancy and motherhood, you may be surprised to find that not everyone will share your feelings of happiness when you break the news to them. People might strangely start to drift out of your life or give you radio silence and, in some cases, even disappear. One of our members recently reached out to us on our Facebook page. She has realised since becoming pregnant, that some of her friends are drifting away and she is becoming isolated and lonely. Our Facebook page was filled with positive messages from our members who reached out to support this mom. All the advice and words of kindness and encouragement from our community reflects the reality that you, as a mom, will never be alone.
“Sometimes people grow apart as your life has gone in a different direction to theirs”
People may not realise how important is to have your friends around you during this new cycle of your life. They may not realise how hurt you might feel, now that they're not around as much.
“I can totally relate to this and unfortunately, it happens. But you must remember that isn’t a reflection of you”
(Maryellen Ní Churnáin)
From our member’s experiences, sometimes people are just in different stages of their lives and they might not know how to be behave or how to react around a friend who is pregnant, especially if they don’t have any children themselves.
I have eventually realised that it is not personal. They have no idea what you are going through until they have children themselves
Our moms had some great advice to share:
Allow yourself to feel sad, but then count out your blessings
Parents and toddlers/baby playgroups, and local support groups are a great alternative to not only meet other moms, but also to encourage your new arrival to interact with other babies and also to promote their development.
I ended up getting three great friends through my local breastfeeding group
Baby massage, as well as baby & mom yoga classes can be a great way to get to know new moms. From these groups, moms plan coffees and outings, share their stories and experiences while watching their own new friendship growing. In the end, the most important thing is to look after yourself and your baby, and don’t be afraid to share with others how you feel. Keep an eye on our eumom event page as we run regular play and coffee mornings for moms to meet and get to know each other!
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