Pregnancy and Dads-to-be
‘What am I getting myself into?’ You may begin to ask yourself this as your partner comes into her final months of pregnancy.
People in the workplace may be asking ‘are you making the most of your last days?’, as if you have some dreaded illness. A lot of people fear parenthood as the death of their creative ambitions. No one needs to give up on their dreams, although perhaps the long-held ones – being a superstar DJ, scoring a winning goal in the world cup final, writing a best selling novel and such – might need to become a bit more focused.
Pregnancy can also seem quite a scary time in the beginning. Some fathers are reluctant, but even the most enthusiastic fathers will feel the whole experience is slightly unreal. Your partner will be experiencing symptoms, like morning sickness and exhaustion, but for new dads-to-be the whole situation can seem a bit surreal.
The thing about pregnancy is that, as the father, there is only so much you can do; it is the expectant mother who really does all the work. This can be a common source of tension for couples during pregnancy, as the father may feel he is being ignored in the process. By getting involved at every level, this will make it easier for the mother, and in addition keeps the father from feeling left out.
As many men find, becoming a parent is a life-altering transition.
You can prepare for the role of fatherhood by learning more about how to care for your newborn and support your partner as she recovers from childbirth as you all settle in at home to bond with your new baby.