Making Lifelong Friends On eumom: "It's Like Tinder For Moms"
This is such a fantastic story, we just had to share!
One of our readers, Sandra from proseccopoweredmum.wordpress.com, got in touch to tell us all about the fantastic group of friends she has made through joining eumom when she found out she was pregnant. Calling eumom "tinder for pregnant women", Sandra has captured perfectly the incredible friendships she has made through the magic of the eumom Birth Clubs. Read on to be inspired, and don't forget to join your birth club too!
On the 23rd of November 2009, I peed on a stick! It was my birthday, and 14 years after my first positive pregnancy test I saw those two lines!
I wasn't a first-time mum, I was even worse... I was a second time mum who couldn't remember a bloody thing about the first time. When I was 18 and pregnant, mobile phones had yet to become part of daily life, and the Internet was still a way off (Google was actually a set of encyclopaedias in my dad's sitting room).
In hospital with baby number 1 and 2
This time around though, I found my mecca, sitting in my bedroom with that bone-weary exhaustion that only mums-to-be in the first trimester will understand, and freaking out with every ache and pain, I found, not only woman who were pregnant but women who were due the same month as me...I found my eumom birth group!
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A word of warning, nothing is off limits in these groups, there's no such thing as TMI, you're using pseudonyms so you can be as graphic as needed... and to be fair, there are some fairly bizarre pregnancy side effects that need to be discussed. Not to mention the days where the OH (other half) or DH (darling husband) were likely to get hit with a frying pan for looking sideways at our poor hormonal selves! There's nothing quite like the solidarity of your pregnant sisters offering to come up to help to bury him under the patio! (Not that we condone violence)
Going from online chats to real world friends
Our group eventually moved from the eumom website to a Facebook group, our bundles had arrived, the conversations tended to veer more towards baby poo than mammy's privates so there was less need for anonymity. It was also time to start seeing who we had been talking to. As one of the girl's husbands said "they could be big hairy bikers for all you know". I suppose he was right, but I don't think any big hairy biker would be committed enough to the cause to sit around talking about discharge and piles for months!
Our first offline meet up
Quite early on I had an idea of the ones that I thought I'd get on with, and when we had our first meet up, I discovered that I'd been fairly spot on. We had a really great bunch, there were about 27 of us to start, but just like school or work, you'll always have those that you gel with the most.
Out of the main group I have six pals that I talk to on a daily basis, we have had girlie nights away, we've attended two (amazing) weddings and we try and meet up as often as possible (not so easy for me as I'm the only one not living in Dublin).
My Big Hairy Bikers! Maria, Carmel, Ciara, Colette, Alison, Hazel and yours truly!
Support when I needed it most
When I was devastated after a miscarriage in 2013, not only did a bunch of flowers arrive at my door - a bunch of mammies arrived at the door of my ward in the hospital, I was never so happy to see those faces, they had been with me every step of the way, and I could talk to them online in a way that I maybe wouldn't have been able to out loud.
Through the years the numbers dwindled a little bit, but the group is still there, it's definitely quieter than it was, but to me, it's like a security blanket, I know that those gals are all there if I need them. They say it takes a village to raise a child, well this crew was my village!
Join your birth club to make friends for life
In 7 years we've been through quite a lot together... there have been (lots) more births, there's been sickness, marriages and deaths, and even a fight or two (yes, grown women, fighting online!). But the advice and support I've gotten over the past 7+ years and the friends I have made just by logging into eumom on that fateful day has been incredible.
So, if you've just peed on a stick, and have seen those 2 lines... believe me, there are worse things you could do than finding your birth club!
About The Author
Sandra is a loving, cursing, bitching, laughing mother of 3, who spends her days running round in circles, fighting with 20, 6 and 2 year old versions of herself and asking people not to judge her for wearing pyjamas at 6pm... Just trying to get her shit together before she turns 40!
You can read more on proseccopoweredmum.wordpress.com or find her on Facebook and Instagram.