Baby Brain: What Is It & How Do You Manage It?
Baby brain. You’ve read the books, you’ve met the frazzled pregnant mother to be in the shop who cannot remember either what she went in for or where her wallet is, you may have doubted its existence at all until you or your partner were pregnant.
But trust me, that dead eyed stare into the middle ground is uncontrollable and unpredictable, most importantly unnerving as you will feel completely and utterly normal as if trying to put your loyalty card into the bank machine and having the nice patient people in the queue behind you have to point it out to you.
In fact, this article was a bit of a struggle to write as I wanted to remember all of the things that I had forgotten, and well, let’s just say the list is inconclusive. I suppose on the upside, you do forget the mortification of such precious moments also.
Facial control is very important in managing baby brain, efforts to moderate your utter horror/shock/disgust at what you have done or forgotten to do will help you develop a more neutral approach to things. Boiling what you thought was eggs, but what turned out to just be a pot of water is pretty bad, but when other people are there, it can help take the sting out of it if you can salvage that situation a bit.
"Oh, boiled water, have you not heard of it? That’s the best way to get the most from your eggs... when you remember to put them in."
There is also a certain amount of embracing the chaos involved, Some mothers meal plan, I took a more winging it approach to household management during my pregnancies, but look it, we all survived. And now, I have a new found fondness for surprise dinner. And lunch. And holidays. What is life if not an adventure?
Baby brain is also a test of friendship. True friends will laugh and understand, those who will hold any action undertaken by you while in the grip of baby brain, you can definitely live without. Dropped appointments become the norm, but with a Teflon memory only capable of retaining your own address, it really is beyond your control.
On the upside of baby brain, I found myself developing new talents. Top of the list was the new ability to immediately forget what I had gone upstairs for, the moment that I, in fact, got upstairs and to remember what I had gone upstairs for when I returned downstairs. Repeatedly.
Again, thinking positively about this, I was able to cancel my gym membership as I was now getting my full cardio workout in my pursuit of tea towels.
Have you experienced baby brain? What's the funniest thing that's happened to you? Let us know in the comments section below!