How To Rediscover Your Style As A Mom
With all the changes your body and your lifestyle go through when you become a Mom, it can be easy to lose sense of your personal style; and even former fashionistas can find their appearance slipping down the list of priorities.
That’s why we’ve created a guide to finding (or rediscovering) your style now you’re a mom. This isn’t to say that you have to change who you are; so fear not, it’s not all alice bands and mom jeans!
1. Embrace your new body
There’s no point in sitting around in worn out leggings, waiting for the moment your body springs back to its pre-baby self. Absolutely, take the time to keep yourself healthy and in shape; but remember that your body may well be different now you’re a mom, and you should dress to suit your new shape: Once you start accepting your new figure instead of treating it as a temporary imposition, you can start to feel more like yourself.
Don’t try to squeeze into old clothes, or buy too big. You can look your best by understanding your shape and your colouring, and dressing to suit it. Show off the bits you love, and skim over the bits you want to hide (don’t bury them under giant hoodies and old maternity wear.) This will also speed up shopping trips, as you (and Pinterest) can work out roughly what you're looking for before you go.
2. Sort out your smalls
Now you’ve embraced your shape, it is time to give it the best start in life. Do a proper clear out of your underwear. Throw out all those odd socks, laddered tights, greying pants and stretched nursing bras. Go and get properly fitted for a new bra (you may be surprised how much your size has changed) and invest in some comfortable and easy to wear underwear. If possible buy at least one pretty bra that makes you feel amazing when you need a boost; and stock up on seamless underwear in limited colours; so you can throw on whatever you find, and still feel good.
3. Clear your wardrobe
With limited time to get ready, you don’t want to be stuck looking for something to wear. Throw out all that over-stretched maternity wear, things you haven’t worn for years that no longer suit your lifestyle, anything that no longer fits, and those clothes you were given but secretly don’t like! Only keep the clothes that not only fit, but also help you feel your best. And as Marie Kondo says: If it doesn’t Spark Joy, get rid of it. This doesn’t mean that what you keep has to be worn 24/7: It’s fine to save items for date-night, or child-free days out; and you don’t have to wear all your regular clothes during pregnancy, as they may get stretched. Being selective will actually make your favourite items last longer.
4. Give yourself a seasonal uniform.
Having a smaller collection of clothes that you really love, and that you know how to style, can take all the stress out of getting dressed. If in doubt, keep it simple with some classics you know always work:
- Button-down Shirts (in a pattern, so you can’t see any spills!)
- Higher waisted Jeans/Jeggings (will hold in your tummy & enable you to sit on the floor without worrying about a builders bum.)
- Jersey Maxi Dresses (super comfy, but look stylish and safe for bending down to pick children and spillages off the floor.)
- Cardigans (throw over the top of anything, but more flattering than a hoodie.)
- Casual (and affordable) Blazer.
- Comfort is as important as style, so rather than heels or runners, go for Converse, Flat Boots, Toms, or fancy Flats/Pumps in whatever colour you fancy, to make your feet happy.
5. Don’t feel guilty about spending money on yourself.
As a certain brand would say: You’re worth it. How we dress is intimately tied up with issues of body confidence, and self-worth; and you don’t have to spend a fortune to look amazing.
Having a practical wardrobe doesn’t mean you have to be boring; and what you wear is a great way to show personality. Remember that how you treat yourself, is important for teaching your children how to see themselves, so dress with the confidence you want your kids to have. If you’re on a tight budget, you could always add items you’re lusting after onto your birthday/Christmas wish list.
6. Read the label
But just before you go wild in the aisles, remember to check washing labels: There’s no point in buying dry clean only silk and cashmere that will be wrecked in an instant. To be truly comfortable in what you’re wearing day to day, you need to find items with the comfort, cost, and wearability that will allow you to relax rather than worrying about stains and creases.
7. Start with the Basics
If you don’t know where to start, these two accessories are priceless when you get them right:
A Practical & Stylish Bag – Baby bags don’t have to be momsy, so look out for something that you admire for its looks as well as its pockets! The aim is something big enough to hold everything you need, that won’t be a bottomless pit in which you lose everything. If you’re treating yourself, Tiba+Marl make stunningly stylish changing bags, but Boots, Argos (particularly the Summer Infant Range,) and M&S all stock ranges of affordable and stylish bags too … M&S also have some delectable bags that may not specifically be for moms, but offer plenty of storage nonetheless.
Fabulous Sunglasses – Whether you want to splash out on some RayBans, or you find the perfect pair in Penneys (which avoids the panic of whether they’ll get sat on); sunglasses can instantly make you feel like a superstar, even when you leave the house with no make up, and hair that hasn’t been washed for days. A personal favourite is Mango, which has cool retro styles that don’t feel too ‘trendy.’
8. Don't wait for an occasion to buy that great dress.
Every woman knows the rule: Have nothing on the calendar and you'll see gorgeous dresses everywhere, that suit you down to the ground. But as soon as you need a dress for an event, you won't find a single one. So if you spot the holy grail of dresses (that works with your new style, makes you feel great, and is comfortable) before you need it: Buy it! Then it's already there, when that big event is sprung upon you.
We know it can be tricky to get your style groove back after becoming a mom, but even treating yourself to one piece can make more of a difference to your confidence than you'd like to admit! Do you have any advice for other moms about rediscovering your style? What are your favourite items in your wardrobe? We'd love to hear!
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