10 Positive Affirmations to Boost Your Self-Worth
Keeping your sense of self-worth at a healthy level can be a challenge when you’re a mom.
The focus is rarely on yourself, and when it is, it’s often a hurried, guilt-laden rush. For those of us who are prone to negative self-talk, this can spell disaster. Not having the time to talk yourself down from a negative spiral can mean you get caught in a constant stream of damaging thinking.
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That’s why affirmations can work wonders. Our minds are pretty gullible; they believe whatever we tell them. Remember that saying, ‘Fake it till you make it’? If you spend the day telling yourself that you’re not great at your job, that you’re overweight and that you definitely aren’t up to much as a mom, how do you think you’ll feel at the end of the day? More than likely like a tired, overweight, not up to much mom who’s no good at her job.
That’s why positive affirmations work so well. We may not believe the words we’re telling ourselves initially, but repeat them enough, and in no time at all, we believe we’re great moms with healthy bodies, good lives and a whole lot going for ourselves.
Vivienne Kerrigan, a hypnotherapist at Hip Mums workshops uses hypnosis with her clients to slow down their thought process, so that they get a chance to think more “smartly”. “My first port of call is stopping the negative self-doubt we women tend to overindulge in. I teach women how to stop the self-doubt or negative talk inside our own heads and replace it with more productive thinking. For me, this is a must for boosting self-worth, especially for mums because we are the cornerstone of the family. If we learn to react better when we are stressed and doubting ourselves, then our kids learn by example.”
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Vivienne suggests choosing an affirmation that suits your needs best. “Whatever you are saying to yourself, stop and listen to how you are saying it and how it makes you feel. If you feel bad, change it until you feel good about yourself. As soon as you find an affirmation that works well for you, use it as many times as you need to. The effects are long-lasting and it doesn’t cost you anything except a thought.
Here are some helpful affirmations:
1. Today, I am grateful for...
The gratitude affirmation is possibly one of the most effective. The happiest aren’t those for whom things go smoothly all the time; it’s those who see the positive in situations.
2 I trust myself to make the best decision for me
If you’re forever doubting yourself, mulling over decisions you’ve made, second-guessing your choices, you’re forever undermining yourself. Trusting that you know what’s best for you innately and intuitively will create a wonderful ease in your life.
3. I am in control and I am calm
No matter what life throws at you, being able to remain calm and in control is probably one of the most important things you’ll do. The issue will blow over, as will your temper, but things said in the heat of the moment and the related anxiety, won’t. Staying calm, relaxed, centred while repeating the ‘I am in control, I am calm’ mantra will focus you and bring you to a preferable place in that moment.
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4. I am grateful for my healthy body
We can so often get caught up in negative thoughts about our bodies - they feel bloated, they’re tired, they don’t look like we want them to. Reminding yourself how lucky you are to have a healthy body that’s free of illness puts things into perspective pretty quickly, giving a sense of gratitude as opposed to a sense of guilt or shame.
5. I am safe
Rushing around, worrying, getting caught up in the rat race can lead to burnout and anxiety. Reminding yourself that you’re safe, that everything’s OK, gives you the reassurance you need to feel grounded.
6. Today is going to be a good day
Instead of dreading the day ahead, try to start the day by telling yourself it’s going to be a good day, and even if something happens that you didn’t particularly want to happen, you might just have a different outlook having started the day with a positive outlook.
7. I have everything I need in life to be happy
Rather than starting from a place of scarcity, start from a place of abundance. In other words, rather than feeling like you should have more, be more or do more, why not focus on all that you have, that you’ve done, that you are? Immediately, you feel more fulfilled, more satisfied, more abundant.
8. I deserve the best
Many of us are challenged with feeling that maybe we don’t deserve the best, and so, we don’t expect it, don’t aim for it, and don’t demand it. Knowing that you deserve the best sets your sights on the positive, on expecting great things to happen...and you’ll find then that they often will.
9. I am open to life and all its challenges
Fear often keeps us closed off from living fulfilling lives. You might not identify it as fear, but usually, that’s what keeps us from doing things that intimidate us, and these are often the very things that could lead us onto great new experiences. Opening yourself to new people, new experiences, and new challenges, brings you into the light and into a space of opportunity.
10. Today is the beginning of a new chapter of my story
Each morning you wake up is an opportunity to start again, to start living the life you want, to cast off the old fears - all those things that are holding you back. It’s OK to let go. So give it a go. As Vivienne says,
The thoughts inside your head are directly responsible for how good or bad you feel on a daily basis. We need to be careful how we are talking to ourselves, because we are listening very closely.
Wise words. Vivienne Kerrigan is a hypnotherapist and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Mind Coach from Dublin, who offers workshops and coaching from her Hip Mums practice. For more details, visit hipmumsrelax.com
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