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An Honest Account Of A New Mom's Social Life

Congratulations! Still feel like a normal human being after having your baby? Good on you. Still feel like a normal human being after having a baby and your first proper night out? Fair play, please tell me what your secret is!  

Between the birth of my first born and my first foray back into a nightclub, something very strange had happened. Skinny jeans had taken over. I could only presume they were doing this on a nightclub by nightclub basis, solely under the cover of darkness.

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There was also the problem of my post baby body to overcome. I was the same weight, just a different shape. And not the sort of shape that suited skinny jeans per say. On the plus side, I was now not the only person under fifty drinking gin.
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It was now not ordered at the bar under hushed tones and the wink of an understanding and sympathetic barman, there was now a gin menu, on a gin night and it was all served up in gin glass of all things. Can we all raise a glass to swings and roundabouts! 

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Also emerging from the shadows was the idea of pre-drinks, or prinking. Having a few drinks in someone’s house before heading off to a nightclub. Sounded like great fun until I didn’t make the nightclub and just left at 11 to go home to bed. Sleep deprivation does strange and weird things to people... I could finish that sentence properly… but you’ll have to fill in the blanks yourself. 
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Being stuck in the house with a baby/small children/bad weather/illness doesn’t mean that you are cut off from contact with the outside world, there are so many groups on social media now that it is easier than ever to reach out. This has certainly made the day go faster for me, and gets me at least thinking about things other than housework and school runs for a little bit.  

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In fact, having a baby can also potentially widen your social circle, this can be nerve-wracking, but worth it. The bliss of going out for a few drinks and being able to suggest heading home before twelve with a bag of chips is just fabulous. If you have a mom that you think you would get along with sans baby, ask her out! You’ll never know unless you try!


‚ÄčThose first few conversations can be awkward as you try to find out if they are the sort of person who are going to judge you on how well your house is withstanding the children making memories. If you can step over the mess and don’t mind your coffee in a Transformers mug, call over anytime. 

About the Author

Jane is a writer, blogger and mammy based in South Dublin. She has spearheaded equality programmes and advocacy campaigns for large NGO’s and is now following a lifelong dream in establishing herself as a writer. Recently qualified in Journalism, Jane has won the June 2015 Original Writing Short Story competition, has been longlisted for the Blog Awards 2015 and runs The Postmodern Mammy. Never one to shy away from controversy, Jane enjoys writing about parenting, politics and social issues.

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