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The 6 Easy Ways To Make Date Night Happen

Whether you’re ‘single and ready to mingle’ or feel like you’ve been married forever; there’s nothing quite like a proper date. All too often, work stress, poorly children, lack of sleep, and sports practice gets in the way; but taking time to connect as adults is vital to improving your self-esteem, re-igniting (or just ‘igniting’) your relationship, and maintaining your sanity. After all, you are far more than just ‘Mom.

It may feel like too much effort at times, but we’ve got a few simple tips to remind you that building date night into your routine doesn’t have to be an added stress, and could make all the difference. It doesn't even have to be in the evening!

1. Get Rid Of The Kids

  • Finding a great babysitter can be priceless; so ask around for recommendations from friends, moms at the school gate, and neighbours.

  • Check out if any Mom friends might be interested in doing an alternating sleep-over play date, so you and they both get some time off.

  • Bribe parents, friends, siblings, or any of the wonderful trustworthy people you know, to come and babysit for a few hours. It’ll be worth it.

Now that’s done, here comes the hard bit: Try to stay away from domestic talk. On a night out without your little ones, don’t spend the whole time talking about them (or washing/DIY/finances) … once you have a bit of practice, the possibilities of real adult date conversation are huge!

2. Make An Effort

This doesn’t mean you need to spend hours getting ready, or wear something you’re not comfortable in, that involves control-underwear. But do pick an outfit that makes you feel most confident and attractive; and if you have time, put in that finishing touch such as your favourite jewellery, or a dash of lipstick. You’re doing something special; and you deserve to feel awesome.

The other part of making an effort is simple: Put Away Your Phones!

3. Don’t Stress Yourselves Out

Just because you have date night, doesn’t mean it needs to involve fancy restaurants, late nights, or expensive theatre tickets. It’s all about the two of you, so think about what YOU want to do. Trashy film and popcorn? Fine. Early Bird Special? (Two courses, and you still get to be in bed at 10pm) Great. Just a walk around the park/along the beach/around the neighbourhood while your Mom watches the kids for 30 minutes? Fine. It doesn’t have to sound spectacular for other people, for it to be significant for you.

4. Make New Memories

Do you sometimes sit at home thinking: ‘I remember when we did things, and had a life!’ Though it may not be as regular an occurrence, that doesn’t mean it’ll never happen. Why not alternate who picks what you’ll do; and keep an eye out for things happening in the area: Is there a new restaurant or coffee shop (dates don’t have to be night time, after all.) Is there a show/band on tour you could catch? Is there a festival or exhibition nearby? Once you look around, there’s often more on than you expected; and they don’t have to cost much. Even if something isn’t as good as you hoped; it’s often the mishaps that make the most memorable adventures.

5. Practice Makes Perfect

Just like exercise (and sex!) the more you do it, the more you’ll enjoy it. So even though squeezing dates into the packed life of a parent might be tricky at first; by allowing it to become part of the routine will reduce the stress, and turn it back into something that’s actually fun. Don’t wait till your babies are 18 before you return to adult life again: Going out for an occasional evening doesn’t mean you’re abandoning your little darlings, it’s just showing them that their parents are humans too, and that you have to look after yourself to be able to look after others.

6. Just in case you’re still not inspired…

Early bird meal. Walk at the Park/Beach. Comedy show. Brunch. Big sports match (with plenty of atmosphere.) Music Gig. Wander around a Museum. Art Exhibition. Cinema. Newspapers & Breakfast in Bed. Challenge each other to a Boardgame. Technology Free Evening. Visit a ‘Tourist Attraction.’ Go out for Coffee and Dessert. Do a Class Together. Theatre. Picnic ... you could keep new ideas pinned on the fridge!

So what are your favourite things to do with your partner? We'd love to hear!


About the Author

Emily is a writer, editor, blogger, and our Digital Content Assistant. She has three awesome nieces, and has accidentally worn the same outfit as them on at least one occasion. Emily likes making things, including hand-drawn cards, and a darn good chocolate cake. She still sounds very English, despite living in Dublin for the last nine years. More insight into the workings of her brain can be found on dancingcakesandsilence.blogspot.com.

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