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Is Not Wanting Sex Part Of Getting Older And Being A Mum?

A lot of things change once you have children: your body, your emotional health and your relationship. Your whole world revolves around the little person you and your partner created.

It can also come with big challenges and sometimes mums need help.

One of our readers is faced with such a challenge. Our sex and relationship expert Trina Read had some advice on what she can do.

Since I had my two children, who are now 11 and 12 – I have no interest in sex. I was always was interested before. Is this common with mothers, or is it just part of getting older? Help! 

Trina Answers

When it comes to wanting (or not wanting) sex, there are multiple factors to consider. So many, in fact, these suggestions are the tip of the iceberg.

Sex Is A Habit

As much as we want to believe sex is spontaneous, couples who have regular sex (un)conciously made it a priority and habit. For example, they know it will happen some time over the weekend, and/or after four or five days.

READ MORE: Always Too Tired For Sex? Try This Top Tip

No Time For Relationship Connection

What tends to happen for many women is her time, energy and focus goes to the daily kid treadmill. It’s incredibly challenging to give any time to your relationship; but the less time you give, the more difficult it is to feel connected. No connection = No will, want and desire for sex.

What’s In It For Me?

Many women lose interest in sex, especially after kids, because there doesn’t seem to be much pleasure in it for her. She simply goes through the motions, which ultimately, over time makes her want to avoid the hassle.

READ MORE: How Can I Get My Husband Interested In Sex Again?

Best Sex Tip

Start with sexifying yourself, and only then will you be able to feel sexual with your partner.

Do you have a similar problem? Tell us about it in the comments below.


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