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Relationships: If They're Sick, Don't Leave Them Untreated

When a new baby comes in to the world, life as we know it is changed forever. 

 

But what happens when our relationship starts to show signs of being unwell? Do we rush to get help and fix it? Or do we put it on the back burner? If a relationship is left untreated for too long the damage could become terminal and early intervention is key. The moment a relationship starts to show signs of sickness, it’s time to take action!

Parenthood is tough on a relationship but can also be enriching. A little bit of effort at the first sign of trouble could potentially prevent a whole load of heart break and a broken relationship years later. The arrival of a new baby and managing a young family is wonderful but can also feel like a mammoth task. Between changing nappies and feeding routines, suddenly you don’t seem to have any time for yourself or your partner.

The sleepless nights are taking their toll and you’re both a little bit more tetchy than usual and let’s not forget the hormones are in overdrive. On a bad day, looking in the mirror can be quite a shock. How did you fail to notice the huge milk stain on your shirt and what happened to your hair? In fact, when did you last wash it? Before you know it insecurity rears its ugly head and one wrong move from your other half has you ready to bite their head off.

At this stage, it’s time to nurse things back to health. Firstly, try and take some timeout for yourself. Paint your nails, blow dry your hair, just do something that you enjoy! And if you’re lucky enough take an afternoon and go out for some real retail therapy (that doesn’t mean grocery shopping or buying stuff for the kids!) This is never easy but a little bit of time here and there just for you can make all the difference and don’t feel guilty about it. You deserve it!

If you’re a happy mom on the inside it shows on the outside to your baby and your partner. Then it’s time for some relationship medicine. Date nights are a great way to reconnect, but there are some basic rules - try not to spend the night talking about the kids and going out to a function or with a group of friends doesn’t count.

When it’s just the two of you, there is an opportunity to really listen to each other and resolve all those little niggly things that have been simmering under the surface causing tension between you. How soon after having a baby you start your date nights is completely up to you. I was quite shocked to read about the negative feedback celebrity Chrissy Teigan received on social media after going out for dinner with her husband John Legend one week after giving birth.

I mean really? It seems like when you have a new baby everyone has an opinion. Do what suits you and your partner. Go out when you feel good and ready. Another good relationship medicine is doing fun stuff together as a family. It can bring a different kind of closeness to a relationship and is just as important as date nights (you can still hold hands and wink at each other across the table or the play park!)

Lastly, never try and compare yourself or your relationship to others. We never know what goes on behind closed doors and sometimes what looks like the “perfect relationship” on the outside is probably going through the same ups and downs as everyone else. We’re all human after all!

Every relationship needs to be taken care of and when a relationship shows signs of sickness it might be time to feed it some good medicine like appreciation, consideration and communication, but never leave it too late because like any sickness it could get worse.

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