How To Keep The Spark In Your Relationship
Being a parent that’s in a relationship is hard work: Not only do you have to make sure that your children are well taken care of and cleaned and fed every day, you also have to give your partner some lovin’.
Between all the running around, cooking and cleaning, your partner is sometimes completely forgotten. Before you know it, you’re living different lives and only checking in for the children’s sake.
So how do I prevent this from happening? You might ask.
Well, if you do these things on a daily basis, it’s quite easy (or as easy as it can be). And most of these don’t even require you to get a sitter to mind the kids. It’s small changes that can make a big difference.
1. Be Excited To See Each Other
The way you greet each other can set the tone for the rest of the day. You haven’t seen each other for at least a few hours, so if you greet each other with excitement, you can end the day on a high note. And what’s better than receiving a hug and kiss the minute you get in the door?
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2. Give Each Other Space
Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to be with each other every second of every day. Give each other some space. You’re still two individuals, even if you’re in a relationship. Keep doing hobbies you enjoy, even if your partner doesn’t want to do it with you, and the same for him.
3. Keep The Element Of Surprise Alive
You don’t have to throw a big surprise party. But do be unpredictable once in a while by arriving home with a small gift, or organising a surprise weekend getaway. Once again, it’s the small things that can make a big difference.
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4. Create Rituals
Some might say that they barely have time to brush their teeth every morning, let alone creating rituals with their partner. Well, why not take anything you need to do on a daily basis and rather do it with your partner every day, like enjoying your morning coffee, or brushing your teeth together. Or choose one night every week you cook together for your family.
5. Send Romantic Text Messages
It’s nice to know someone’s thinking about you even if you’re apart. Even if it’s just to say: “Hi, Just dropping in to say I’m thinking about you”. It can build the anticipation for when you’ll see each other again. And don’t be afraid to send some sexy text messages. It’ll easily spice things up and keep the romance in your relationship.
6. Set Goals Together
Whether it’s financial goals, fitness goals or relationship goals, don’t be afraid to talk about it with your partner and setting goals together. By working toward your goals can help you feel like a team and gives you new things to talk about and do together.
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7. Ask Meaningful Questions
When you’re in a long-term relationship, your questions often change from “What was the best part of growing up?” to “What do you want for dinner?”. Make a point to really ask meaningful questions to your partner that’ll spark a meaningful conversation. Even though the daily questions is important, but while you’re spending time together, rather have meaningful conversations than not talking at all.
8. Be Friendly
You wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who doesn’t treat you with respect, kindness and consideration. Then why won’t you be friendly towards your partner? It’s nice spending time with a friendly person rather than a grump all day. Treat each other with respect.
9. Spend Time With Other Couples
By spending time with other couples who are in happy relationships can be good for you. You’ll feed off of their energy and realise why you fell in love the first place.
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10. Say It Like You Mean It
It’s easy to just ramble a “Love you” when you run out the door. But by really looking your partner in the eye and telling him that you love him, means much more. Really say it like you mean it and let your partner know you’re serious when you say it.
How do you keep the spark in your relationship? Tell us in the comments below.