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How To Maintain Your Sanity While Raising Twins

"I think I am going insane," says a voice in your head. It's perfectly normal for every parent of twins [and every parent in general] to think they are losing their marbles. Raising two children at the same time is like trying to work two full-time jobs simultaneously. If you work full-time then you essentially have the equivalent of three full-time jobs.

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Parents of twins need to be resilient, hardworking and learn how to manage stress. It is not uncommon for relationships to crack under pressure of having multiples. If you want to keep your sanity and your relationship intact then you will need to put certain measures in place.

Here are 5 Tips For Maintaining Your Sanity While Raising Twins:

1. Don't Forget Your Relationship

Your relationship came first and it should be your number one priority. Never forget that without your partner you would not have your family. To stay happy you need to work extra hard on your relationship after your twins are born.

Enjoy nice meals, have date nights and try to get nights away from your children. Now that you have two little bundles of joy it is easy to forget about the love of your life. It's important that you schedule time for each other. This needs to be real quality time with your love, without your smartphone or any other distractions.

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2. Take Days Off

This is something that I struggle with but try to plan at least once per quarter. You need to get time away from your babies for yourself. Do something that you love that recharges your batteries. I have taken time off and gone drinking with my mates but this is not what I mean by taking days off.

Taking days off just for drinking will leave you worse off than you were before. When you take time off use it for rest an recuperation. Go to a spa, get a massage or go for a swim. Make sure that it is something that makes you feel rejuvenated and will not leave you more tired than before.

3. Do Something For Yourself Every Day

If you want to live every day like it is your last then you need to look after yourself. My days are jam-packed from about 5.30 AM until 10 PM. I make sure that I get two hours to myself every day.

The time that I get for myself is early in the morning and before I go to bed. The rest of the time I am working. I use the mornings to workout and meditate and the evenings to read. Reading, meditating and working out help me to relax every day. Doing things that you love will help to keep you sane.

4. Get Enough Sleep

There is a great book called Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker. It goes into great detail about why we sleep. Sleep is the cheapest type of therapy that any parent of twins can do. When you sleep your body and brain get a proper chance to reboot.

When you have twins the first year involves a lot of sleepless nights. The lack of sleep really tests your physical and mental capacity. When your twins find their rhythm it is important that you get back into a good sleeping pattern. Being well rested is one of the most important weapons that you have in the war against losing your mind.

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5. Eat Well

Once you become a parent it is easy to be lazy and eat whatever you want. Eating food that is bad for you will not help you to stay sane when you have twins. Bad nutrition will leave you feeling lethargic and far from a peak condition.

If you are not firing on all cylinders and you are feeling lazy, it is difficult to be the best parent that you can be. Eating a well-balanced diet with lots of fresh fruit & vegetables, healthy fats and good sources of protein will give you more energy. You need this energy to keep you from losing your mind.

So remember…

It is normal to feel like you are going crazy when you have twins. This is part and parcel of being a parent of multiples. You can let the stress and pressure control you, or you can put measures in place to maintain your balance. It is important that you look after yourself first, this will make it easier for you to show up for your children every day.

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What would your top tips for parents be? We'd love to hear.

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About the Author

James was born and bred in Dublin, but now lives in Berlin with his wife Olivia. His blog www.scantilydad.com explores the journey from infertility to parenthood, while entertaining parents with funny stories and useful tips learnt along the way.

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