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6 Reasons Why Infertile Fathers Make Great Dads

Continuing our Featured Writer Of The Month series with September, we have 'Scantily Dad' James Doherty; discussing some of the many ways that fathers with fertility issues make great dads. If you'd like to be our next Featured Writer, you can find more details here.

An Infertile Father -  a modern oxymoron that is becoming more common due to the wonders of modern science. There was once a time, when men that could not have children naturally either had no family, or adopted. Those times have changed thanks to the amazing advancements in infertility treatment.

Dads that have battled through infertility and have been given the gift of a family, have a different outlook on life. They were once told that they would not have a family and have worked harder than the average man to become dads. These infertility warriors embrace fatherhood with gratitude, and appreciation.

Here are 6 reasons that infertile fathers make great dads:

1.They appreciate everything

Having fought so hard to have a family, infertile fathers appreciate each day they get to spend with their children. When you get something easily in life, then you can take it for granted. When you have to work against all the odds to get something, then you appreciate it even more. Appreciation is the cornerstone of every infertile father’s relationship with his family.

2.They are patient

When an infertile dad is sleep deprived and has to deal with the demands of his child, he is patient: He just has to remember how patient he had to be to have a family. Dealing with the child patiently is easy, compared to their long wait to have children.

3.They understand the needs of their children

Coping with the heartache of infertility makes infertile fathers more understanding of people in need, especially their own children. Taking the time to understand what their children want comes as second nature to these unlikely dads.

4.They can cope with stress

Having been through the mill with infertility treatment, the stresses of daily life seem so much easier. It is stressful having children; but it is nothing compared to the heartache of IVF treatment. The lessons learned when dealing with IVF make parenthood seem like a walk in the park.

5.They put things in perspective

No matter how tough it gets, these brave dads never forget that they once were told that they could not have a family. Putting things in perspective is their best strategy, for coping with the hard work that comes with having a family.

6.They are filled with gratitude

Infertile dads are eternally grateful for everything that they have. They once had nothing, and are now blessed with families. They take time each day to practice gratitude, for the gift that they have now been given.

Infertile dads are just like every other dad, they love their family, and their children are the most important things in their lives. Having had to fight so hard to have a family, means that they are filled with gratitude and appreciation. Do infertile dads appreciate their families more than lucky fertile father's? I would say yes, because they had to work harder to achieve their lifelong goals of having a family.

Have you had experiences of IVF and Infertility, as a mom or dad? We'd love to hear your thoughts.

James was born and bred in Dublin, but now lives in Berlin with his wife Olivia. His blog www.scantilydad.com explores the journey from infertility to parenthood, while entertaining parents with funny stories and useful tips learnt along the way.

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