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5 Tips For Coping With Two Or More Children

Speaking from the viewpoint of someone with three kids, I can tell you that having more than one child is the best and most challenging thing I have ever done. If you are currently a parent to one child, several children or are just thinking about having kids, the thoughts of being outnumbered can be overwhelming but here are a few suggestions to keep your head above water:

1. Organisation Is Key

When there are more children than adults in the house, it is vital that you are organised. You are basically trying to be a well-oiled machine. Think in terms of division of the workload. You should each have your jobs to do. For example, cooking, cleaning, bedtime and morning routines, bathing the kids, getting ready for school and whatever other duties need to be done to make things run smoothly. This will reduce the chances of something like “Mom, I can’t find my ….” causing a row in the morning. If you have school going children, this is particularly important and a good calendar or family planner goes a long way in keeping track of school and extra-curricular activities.

2. Pick Your Battles

When kids are young, they can be very particular about what they want to do, eat or wear and sometimes it is just not worth a monumental argument. It can be useful as a parent to identify when to just let it go. Sometimes, you will get more peace if you just let him be Spiderman for the day and oddly enough it could end up being a fond memory if you do. The key is weighing up the impact of their point of view and deciding if the consequence is bad enough to argue about. Save yourself the stress and just roll with it.

3. Show A United Front

This is one my husband reminds me about on a regular basis and particularly important in developing boundaries and rules. It is important that your kids see you both operating as a team and agreeing on most things as some kids will exploit a crack if they see one in order to get what they want. It sounds manipulative I know, but it is simply a child pushing your limits to discover where the boundaries lie.

4. Remember Why You Had Them

So often when we have kids, we feel a bit snowed under. When they are crying, having a tantrum or slamming doors, we can question whether we are able for it or whether we are good parents. Rest assured, you are doing a great job, you just need to remember what it was that made you want to have kids. Remember that in between the tantrums, there are big gummy smiles, gorgeous giggles, great big bear hugs and when those little people say, “I love you”, they mean it unconditionally.

5. This Too Shall Pass

Parenting can feel endless (in a good way) and on those difficult days, especially with a few children who for some reason always kick up at the same time, you might feel exhausted and a bit fed up but there is light at the end of the tunnel. As the saying goes “This too shall pass”.

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About the Author

Jenny Sherlock is a working mom of three children, aged 9, 5 and the youngest arrived in January this year. She is a civil servant and a freelance writer. She enjoys art, reading, music and good food. She gives an honest account of the rollercoaster that is parenting, warts and all! Check out her blog seriouslymammy.wordpress.com for more!

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