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Potty Training Advice – All Your Questions Answered

Learn about the signs that signal your toddler is ready to start toilet training with expert advice from The Childcare Agency managing director Natalie Collier.

Potty Training Advice

Toilet training is a massive milestone for your toddler. This is why you need to make sure that your little one is fully ready to make the transition from nappy to toilet/potty.

When you begin toilet training your child, decide at the beginning on the words you are going to use, such as ‘wee’ for passing urine and ‘poo’ for a bowel motion. Talk about these in a positive way.

How To Know When Your Child Is Ready For Potty Or Toilet Training:

  • Can my child follow simple directions?
  • Does my child remain dry for at least two hours at a time during the day?
  • Is my child dry after a daytime nap?
  • Are their bowel movements regular and predictable?
  • Can they pull their pants up and down by themselves?
  • Do they seem uncomfortable in soiled or wet nappies?
  • Do they know the difference between wet and dry?
  • Can they tell me that a wee or a poo is coming?

According to the HSE, if you answer yes to most of these questions, your child is ready to be toilet trained.

READ MORE: Potty Training Basics

Children are usually ready for toilet training between two and three years old. But it’s important to remember that each child starts in their own time.

Potty Training Advice – All Your Questions Answered

Natalie Collier, Managing Director of The National Childcare Agency answers a few common questions from parents about toilet training.

Q.1 How can parents effectively use pull up style nappies?

A. Pull up style nappies are very convenient as they prevent you from having to clean up accidents especially if you need to go out and about with your toilet-training-toddler.

If possible, try to stay mostly at home with quick access to the potty/ toilet for the first week or two so your toddler can have more success without the need for pull up nappies.

Pull up style nappies can be used then for night time or outings. Pull up style nappies can also be used for your toddler to gain confidence, it can give them a sense of feeling ‘more grown up’ than a baby before they are fully ready to train.

If they are not successful in the first couple of tries, then they don’t have to go back to nappies and have not lost any confidence along the way.

Q.2 Is it okay for toddlers to skip the potty and go straight to the toilet?

A. Absolutely, and many children often prefer to use the toilet rather than the potty as that’s what they see their older siblings/parents doing.

Give both a try and do whatever makes your toddler most comfortable. You can get steps for easier access and seat inserts to make the seat smaller.

READ MORE: Signs A Child Is Ready For Toilet Training

Q.3 Is there a difference between toilet training for boys and girls?

A. Toddlers can train from as early as 18 months to three and a half years and it completely depends on your child and watching out for signs that they are ready.

In my experience, I have typically found that girls tend to train younger than boys but not in all cases. In the actual training there isn’t much difference except making sure your little boys are ‘pointing in the right direction’ while sitting on the toilet/potty and showing them how to do this themselves.

Some boys learn straight off to go standing up and some learn to sit initially and then as they are a little older (and a little better at controlling their aim!) they learn to stand.

This can help with learning to tell the difference between just having a wee and doing number twos as well. With girls, make sure to teach them front to back wiping to prevent any infections especially for when they start to do it themselves.

Q.4 When should a parent begin to seek help if their child just can’t be toilet trained?

A. If you think your child is ready to train, by all means give it a go. If they are not succeeding most of the time after two weeks and you find they are having more accidents than successes then give it up…. no big deal or fuss and try again in another couple of months.

READ MORE: Baby-led Potty Training: Make It Work For You

  • Some children have no interest in using the potty or toilet and for some, their muscles are just not developed fully enough for them to succeed.
  • Some children do have a fear of going without the support of a nappy/pull up and that should resolve with plenty of encouragement and some successes.
  • Sometimes it takes just one success for your toddler to realise it is nothing to fear.
  • Most children train successfully between the ages of two and three but some take a little longer.
  • Some children even train successfully and then revert back to having daily accidents even after months of being dry consistently. This again is no big deal and may be just a phase such as the arrival of a younger sibling, moving to a different room in a creche or even a change of diet and is nothing to worry about. 

Be positive.

Try to remain positive and remind them how great it is when they use the toilet successfully. If however, you have tried several times (giving at least a month in between each try and trying for two weeks at a time) and your child is over the age of three and a half, but having no success you may need to check with your GP that everything is working okay.

This is not the same as accidents happening occasionally or staying dry through the night which is normal up to the age of approximately six, but consistently having accidents and either not making it to the bathroom on time every time or not making any effort/ knowing that they are wet.

READ MORE: 9 Things You Really Need To Know About Potty Training

Most of the time there is nothing to worry about and your child just needs more time and practice but if you are worried, get it checked out and try not to let your anxiety effect your toddler’s attitude to toilet training.

Q.5 Do you agree with parents using a rewards system for toilet training?

A. Yes, definitely once the emphasis is on the ‘trying’ rather than the successes or failures!

Children love to be praised and the more praise and encouragement they receive the more likely they are to succeed the next time. If however your child has an accident or doesn’t make it to the loo on time, stickers/rewards should never be taken away and toddlers should not be chastised for failing.

Focus instead on the positive. Some children don’t respond to reward systems or they get too upset for not getting a reward when they don’t succeed.

In this case, perhaps it is time to put it away and just use words of encouragement instead. Each child is unique and will respond differently to different approaches and train at varying ages and paces. The most important thing for you to remember is they need to feel comfortable, confident and that they are doing the best they can and that you are too!

Q.6 How can my child’s crèche help with my child’s toilet training?

A. Discuss with the room leader as to whether they think your child is also ready. Some children train as young as 18 months and others can take well up until after they are three, every child is different.

READ MORE: Potty Training: How To Get The Timing Right

Listen to what they have to say as they may have some valuable tips on how to go about doing this both at home and in crèche. If they don’t think your child is ready and you do, ask them to give it a week at least and see how it goes.

Equally if you are not sure if your toddler is ready but the room leader thinks they are showing the signs, give them a week to try in Crèche and support it at home too, if it doesn’t work out you can come back to it in a few months.

Once You Have Made The Decision To Go Ahead, Be Prepared!

  • Bring extra trousers, underwear, socks, vests and tops (yes wee can travel up!) in a bag, at least three to four pairs for the bottom half as well as training pants if you are using them and a spare pair of shoes.

  • Make sure clothes are easy to pull on and off such as leggings or tracksuit bottoms.

  • Prepare your toddler: Discuss with them that they are now going to be using the big toilet in crèche, show them where it is and that they will have to tell their minder when they need to go etc.

  • Reward, Encouragement, Reward! Crèches vary but most will be happy to dole out stickers and should always give bucket loads of praise and encouragement for every time your toddler uses the bathroom. This may start out with them simply sitting on the toilet to successfully going by themselves after a while.

Communication is key especially during the first week or two between parent and room leader. You may find after a few days that your child is getting on brilliantly at home but not so great in crèche. Don’t despair, it can take time.

Children are often busier and more distracted while at crèche, forgetting they need to go until it is too late. A good room leader will watch out for signs your toddler needs to go and will bring them every 30-60 minutes to try.

You are also able to give your toddler more one-on-one attention at home, so they may grasp the concept first at home. Once they have more control and understanding, it will come naturally in crèche also, especially when they see the other kids using the bathroom.

READ MORE: How To Encourage A Nervous Toddler To Use A Toilet

Top toilet training tips

  • Let your child set the pace for training. Train them when it feels right for them.
  • Watch your child for signals that they need to go to the toilet, such as hopping up and down, or holding their pants. Get them to the potty quickly.
  • Praise your child gently whenever they use the potty.
  • Put on easy-to-care-for clothes that your child can pull up and down easily.
  • Take your child with you when you or your other children go to the toilet. It prepares your young child for when it is their turn.
  • Help your child to manage for themselves on the potty or the toilet, but don’t leave them to manage alone. Go with your child when they ask you to.
  • After they have finished, get your child’s permission to wipe their bottom. Remember to wipe girls from front to back to prevent infection. (www.hse.ie)

Are your little one struggling with potty training? Tell us in the comments below.

More information National Childcare Agency www.nationalchildcare.ie


About the Author

I am Natalie Collier, a childcare recruitment specialist. I am passionate about what I do and determined to find the best possible solution for each family I work with. I have over ten years’ experience working with children and families in several different childcare settings and have learned through this first-hand experience that no two families are alike when it comes to childcare needs.

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