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How To Make Potty Training A Success

Potty-training can be a challenging time in a child’s life, and a mum’s.  I often think about the stages of one’s life, and learning to use the toilet on our own must be one of our biggest steps into independence and eventual adulthood.

Training our children for any aspect of life is very rewarding, preparing the next generation to change the world and care for it, is an amazing task. Great, right? Such a beautiful thought, but why do we feel so overwhelmed and somewhat scared to start the training?

After 13 years of nappy changing and potty-training, I’ve learned what worked best for my family. It wasn’t easy, especially the early days, when it all seemed so difficult and new. Potty Training Tips for Busy Moms came out of a passion to encourage parents, especially mums, to carry on and not give up on this amazing and sometimes crazy journey that is motherhood.

Looking back on my life during these past 13 years, I can see more clearly the things that worked, and didn’t work during the potty-training times. So if you were to ask me today for the best advice and tips that I could give you, here is what I would say:

1. Get to know your child well.

Understanding your child’s personality seems like an easy task, but even though I have been a S.A.H.M (stay at home mum) since my first baby, it can be difficult to know exactly what the best way is to relate to our kids when there is so much to do to keep the home running smoothly.

It can be even more challenging for the mum that works outside the home, as she must come home sometimes, tired and frustrated, and then deal with all the family’s 'joys' as well.

No matter which of those two mums you are, getting to know your child will be a positive help in the potty-training experience.

2. Prepare your child beforehand.

Talking about it using some visual help like books and videos, can work very well. I prepared my kids like that. Local libraries are filled with great helpful tools for busy parents. If your child can picture what it is expected of her/him, they will most likely understand the concept faster and more effectively.

3. Look for the signs!

A lot of the potty-training headache comes from us trying to rush it. There is a time for everything, and if you want to avoid some more frustration, it is worth knowing when your child is ready.

I don’t think age should be a concern, there are eighteen-month-old toddlers that are totally ready for the task and there are two-year-old ones that don’t want to even try. I believe you can train both, but if your child is ready it will be a smoother journey.
During the preparation you will be able to know if your child is ready, or if you should wait a little longer: Sometimes waiting just another week can make all the difference.

Here are a few questions that you can ask yourself about your toddler.

  • Can he/she understand you?
  • Can you understand what they are trying to tell you?
  • Does he/she feel uncomfortable in a dirty/wet nappy?

If you answered “yes” to those three questions, the chances are that your toddler is ready for the task.

4. Prepare yourself ★

This advice, in my opinion, is the most important of any other tips I could give you.
Reading books/blogs and watching videos about the subject can be helpful, but also overwhelming.

When I talk about preparing yourself it has more to do with your mind: Once you have decided that it is time to start the potty-training journey and what method you are going to use, or if you are going to be like me who didn’t really use a method but decided to use my own mummy instinct, you stick with it and don’t stop until you succeed.

Preparing your mind for any task of motherhood goes a long way, but for potty-training I found this particularly true: Be decided in what you want to accomplish, and do not give up before you do it: This is the key to success. Prepare for the ups and downs, and take each day as a lesson.

Some children learn faster than others and that is okay, as long as you patiently and lovingly guide your child to independence.

5. Have a training routine

A training routine will help you and your toddler to focus, and that is very important when you are learning or teaching a new skill.

It doesn’t need to be a super busy schedule, just pin point the times that you will make sure your toddler sits on the potty. If you are very busy and forgetful like me, you can put some reminders on your phone.

During the first week I will make sure to ask my toddler if they need the potty every 10 to 15 minutes and as I see their progress I will ask less and less, but I can say with confidence that you do need to remind them for a long time after they are already trained, especially before naps and bedtime.

6. Book the week you want to start.

Some of us have busy schedules, but if you want to potty train with success, you should set a week that there isn’t much going on in your diary: Setting a time for you to focus, will help you to get the job done in a more peaceful way.

You will be mostly at home where you have access to your child’s clothes and underwear, shower and other things that will come in handy when the accident happens, because it will happen, to some more than others, but it happens.

All my children were potty-trained during the summer, and even though in Ireland our summers aren’t very warm and sunny, I found it better than winter.
 
I hope these tips will be of a help to you.

And remember:

We are all in this journey together, but your child is unique to you and as a mum you will decide when and how you will train your little one. Embrace that responsibility with love, and I guarantee you will succeed! 

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About the Author

Daniela Kinsella is a busy mother of 8, with 7 girls and 1 boy. She has a passion to share her life experiences and to encourage other mums to keep going in this incredible journey of motherhood. With plenty of ups and downs along the way, she is convinced their is no higher calling. 

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