How To Encourage A Nervous Toddler To Use A Toilet
Toilet training is a big milestone for your toddler. This is why you need to make sure that your little one is fully ready to make the transition from nappy to toilet/potty.
Some children do feel anxious about going without the support of a nappy/pull up but that normally resolves with plenty of encouragement and some successes. Sometimes it takes just one success for your toddler to realise it is nothing to be scared of.
One of our mums recently asked a toilet training question to our Facebook community. There were a number of helpful responses, which ranged from investing in a special toddler seat and/or steps, to simply being patient and giving your child time.
My son just turned three, and we are trying to potty train him but it is not going well. He will use the little toilet in the creche to pee but at home it’s a different story. He does not want to go on the potty or the toilet. He gets hysterical when he needs to go near it. I don't put a pull up on him when we are home and he just holds it in then until I put his nappy on for bedtime. He knows what to do, but I don't know how to convince him to do it at home as well. We’ve tried books and a chart with stickers but it doesn't really motivate him either. I’m to get some tips or suggestions from other moms maybe with similar experiences.
Wait Until He’s Ready
Susanne: My little guy was same, we tried at three. It took forever for him to master wees and I'd say eight to 10 months to master poos. He would hold it all day, and a scream and cry on the toilet. He had a huge fear. I just kept encouraging and saying how proud I was when he made small improvements, like even just standing in the bathroom and not crying. Just be patient, he won't be in nappies when he's in secondary school....that's what I kept telling myself! It’s tough though, and can be frustrating but he will get there. Good luck.
Geraldine: I tried my little boy when he was three and it was a nightmare, He was having none of it and I tried everything but it didn't work. Then when he was three and a half he just decided he wanted to be a big boy and wear pants and we have never looked back, he is doing great . Fully trained in a week. Just try to relax and he will do it when he is ready.
Fiona: My son is the same, we just leave him in the pull up, think he likes the security of knowing he has it on in case he has an accident. He'll get there when he's ready.
Toddler Toilet Seats And Steps
Christine: Get the toilet seat with the two different sizes! My little boy was afraid he would fall into the toilet! We got one, and had no problems after that!
Alisha: If he's that terrified of going then he's simply not ready! Don't pressure him, all that's likely to do is instil fear and cause health issues from holding it all day! He's probably going in creche because the toilets are much smaller and a lot of his friends are using it.
Marian: I found the steps with a seat that fits over the toilet great when training my little boy.
Tracy: We brought our son to a big Mothercare and let him pick a potty. He chose a seat type with Thomas tank engine on it and he couldn’t wait to use it each time then. Will be starting son number two in a couple months hopefully it's as easy as that trick! Good luck.
Kim: I had it with my son for nearly three years, remember the toilet in Montessori school is smaller. It's the fear of fallen into the toilet. He wouldn't use the potty either and held it in. If he is comfortable with the nappy I would leave it on him for another while..it's very stressful. My son is eight now and he told me the fear was that he would fall down into the toilet as the toilets at Montessori school are small and perfect fit.
Don’t Turn It Into An Issue
Audrey: Don't make an issue of it all. You will stress yourself out and cause a sorts of problems for him. Don't even talk about it for a while and put a pull up on them. I've four kids, three boys that are trained now and one girl yet to be trained. My third boy was just trained at Christmas (after a few false starts) and he is four In two weeks. He just decided himself he wanted to do it, and honestly was trained in three days with about three accidents on total... No poo accidents at all.... Some kids need something to click in their own heads for toilet training to work...and until it does you're "peeing against the wind" - if you pardon the pun! My seven year old and five year old were both over three too... But they trained quite quickly over a couple of days when they were ready themselves. All kids are different...i don't think toilet training should be forced.
Michelle: My son was the same, to be honest he'll just decide some day to do it it’s something he has control over, not you. All you can do is explain the process and encourage him. He is deciding to hold it until his bedtime nappy and that's what my son did too, give lots of praise for whenever he does use the toilet and try not to be too stressed as he'll pick up on that. Don't worry it will all work out in the end.
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