How To Discipline A Naughty Toddler
Your kids growing up also means developing their own personality and can sometimes mean they are being stubborn and difficult to discipline. Who wouldn't know that!
When you take your children to go shopping with you, it can be a mission just to keep them from breaking down the place.
We recently posted a question from one of our moms on Facebook asking our readers for advice on how to discipline her boy. He’s giving her and her husband a difficult time in the discipline department when they go shopping and especially at bedtime.
“Hi moms. I’m at my wits end and really need some advice. My little boy is almost three and a half. He does not listen to anything we tell him. He is so headstrong and does his own thing all the time. Today for example, we were out shopping and he started climbing up railings. When my husband took him down, he started making a scene saying that his daddy is hurting him (which he definitely didn’t, he just lifted him down and told him not to climb back up). Then my boy started climbing back up again. Bedtime is awful. He makes every excuse under the sun to get back downstairs. He wants one of us to lie beside him which used to work but doesn’t now. Is this a phase? Has anyone else gone through anything similar? Has anyone anything we can try? Thank so much in advance – from a very stressed out mammy!”
It’s A Phase
Megan: “From my experience it’s a phase. My little man is also very headstrong and just plain out stubborn as an ox. He’s four since February and has his days but isn’t as ‘bold’ as he was being for a couple weeks. (It) seems to just be phases of bad behaviour.”
Margaret: “Kids are just so stubborn! But they are getting better the older they get.”
Ciara: “I think it’s a phase. I found three and a half the most challenging age, but these things generally do pass after a while and things get easier. My son is almost three and doesn’t really listen to me much either, but I think it’s normal. I remember my oldest being the most challenging at three and a half years for a few months, but I found it much easier when he was four and now five.”
It’s Normal Behaviour
Ann: “I’m a grandmother but that is all normal behaviour for a three year old. Try telling him before you go shopping that if he’s very good, you will take him for ice cream or you will have a surprise for him. As for bed, you both need to stand together for this and firmly together. Keep saying it’s bedtime.”
Jade: My daughter is seven in August and I’m still struggling with her. So it doesn’t get any easier. They’re just typical children, but my family think my child is the way she is because of the way I parent her – which is so unfair because she’s not the only child out there who acts up. She acts up more around me (alone/with others around) than she would if they had her.”
Punish Them And Follow Through With It
Margaret: “My kids are all very headstrong too! My three year old says we are naughty if we give time out to him, and the other two (six and five) refuse to go on time out unless we physically put them there and they still don’t stay put! We have to remove toys and electronics as forms of punishment!”
Janet: “We have this with our son so the second he does something, we pick him up, no words exchanged, and we go to the car and go home. No matter what.”
Marie: “When our son starts to act up, we tell him three times to calm down. If he doesn’t listen then we take away the activity or go straight home, even if we just arrived. If we are somewhere and he acts up, we take away a privilege and follow through with it. If we take his toys away, he needs to earn it back. But we don’t give it back straight away.”
Siobhan: “Follow through with punishment or time out. Don’t give in when they say sorry. They’ll learn that actions have consequences.”
Encourage Them To Behave Better
Toni: “I have a four year old girl that does her own thing too. She’s starting to get better but loads of encouragement and star charts help.”
Put A Timer On
Marie: “When our son is doing a time out we usually put a timer on so he knows that before the timer ring, he is not allowed to move or bargain or the time will be longer. When he was younger, we used to make him count ‘til 10 in English and French (we are a bilingual family). We realised that time out help him refocus and calm down as sometimes he used to get over excited and couldn’t calm down by himself.”
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