The Fussy Child | A Mother's Guide
I only truly realised how fussy my eldest child was when I had his little sister.
Turns out that no, it wasn’t a phase, it hasn’t passed and he’s not being bold, and that we have all just adjusted and learned to live with it. Here are my top tips for negotiating the minefield that is parenting a fussy child.
1. Making Things Just So
Scratchy blankets, itchy socks, shoes that rub, lumpy pillows, this list is endless and sometimes it does seem like an endless critique of all of the wrong things that you keep buying, but once you have what works cracked life gets easier. Persevere and see what is going to work for you little lifestyle expert. In our case, there was one magical word, fleece. Anything fleece worked a treat. The house looks like the before picture of a 90’s doer-upper program, but there are moments of peace.
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2. Buying New Things
This should be approached with caution, bribes and exit strategies should be expertly planned in advance. This is not just a shopping trip, fussy children are change averse and whilst you can sneak in new clothes under the cover of darkness, shoes are a different ball game entirely. They will cry, you may cry, the shop assistant may cry, but those tootsies have to be measured. It’s ironic that once they have accepted the fact that no one is trying to remove their actual feet, they are down to being measured once a year.
3. The Unsolicited Advice
For the record, no, the fussy child is not fussy because he’s been ‘ruined’, they are not fussy because I am not a strong enough parent, they are not fussy because they take after their first cousin second removed, born under the blood moon on a leap year. I don’t know why they are fussy, the fact is it’s irrelevant and not helpful right now as my child has a meltdown in the jam-packed lift because the emergency button is red and not yellow. Out of interest, why don’t they make them all the same?
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4. Food & Drink Consumption
Firstly, read the above paragraph again for moral support. The foods that my child ate could be described as random, eclectic and boring. Turns out that you don’t need to have a varied diet to have a balanced diet, to all parents of fussy eaters, if they are eating at all you are on to something. He now goes to school with exactly the same lunch every day, but it’s good and healthy. Boring, yes. But it is eaten.
5. It’s Not All Doom & Gloom
There are some advantages to having a fussy child, my own took to toilet training as if he had secretly read the book before me. Being creatures of habit, things like bedtime routines (when you have them down) can be surprisingly straightforward. Yes, we have three bedtime stories, a song and a search for monsters, but once all of the hoops had been jumped through and his fussiness satisfied he goes straight asleep. And that’s what I call, fussy child karma. And it is worth it.
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