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How To Spot The Signs Of Bullying

Despite brilliant efforts like the ISPCC Shield Campaign; bullying is still a seemingly inevitable part of school life in some way or other. But with the damage to self esteem, and the stigma of telling others; if your child is being picked on they may find it hard to open up to you; no matter how honest they usually are with you.

So we've gathered 10 important indicators that your child may be having a tough time in school; along with some suggestions for how to deal with this.

  • Outward signs of stress or anxiety, but not wanting to tell anyone the issue.

  • Injuries that cannot be explained.

  • Clothing or personal items such as book bags, lunch boxes etc. that are damaged without explanation.

  • A lack of interest, or poor performance in school.

  • Asking for money that cannot be explained.

  • Not wanting to attend school.

  • Becoming more aggressive toward others, lashing out, needing extra attention, or other behavioural changes.

  • A loss of self esteem.

  • Trouble with sleep.

  • Many reports of being too ill to attend school.

While these symptoms and signs do not mean that your child is definitely being bullied, they are cause for concern, and should be looked into.

Making contact with your school

If you believe that your child might be being bullied, you should contact the school as soon as possible. You shouldn't hesitate to step in as you may be helping other children in addition to your own.

In most cases, schools will investigate allegations of bullying, and this can take a bit of time. Other students may be questioned, and written accounts may be sought. Other parents and teachers may also get involved in the process.

If your child is being bullied

Make sure your child understands that he/she did not cause the bullying to occur, and that the bully is the one to blame.

Inform your child that bullies do so to get a reaction. Giving any sort of response often just perpetuates the situation.

  • Tell your child to report all bullying incidents to someone of authority in the school.

  • Make sure your child does not react physically, as this could cause the situation to escalate.

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If your child is engaged in bullying behaviour

  • Speak to your child in a way that is calm, and shows good control of emotions.

  • Determine what is making your child bully. Is there something hapening at home or school that is causing this behaviour?

  • Explain that aggression is unacceptable.

  • Help your child understand how victims of bullying feel.

  • Teach children to respect others, and tolerate differences.

  • Be firm and consistent with your parenting, so that your child understands the consequences of this type of behaviour.

You may also want to encourage your child to take up constructive activities such as clubs or sports, or one that involves showing compassion or empathy for others.

For more information, go to bully4u.ie, or ispcc.ie for advice for parents and children.

Read next: How To Build Your Child's Self Confidence


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