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Baby To Teen In 10 Seconds: Where Do The Years Go?

They say your first child is the one you learn from, I believe this too. She has been my guinea pig for motherhood. She hasn't turned out too bad either. So far so good!

We have gone through all the stages: birth, toddler, starting school, to making forever friends. Now as she sails towards her twelfth-year, things may begin to change. 

I have come to that point in my life where my children are getting older and heading for the tween years, then the dreaded teenage years. The horror stories people tell you when your child hits that thirteen-year mark, it's full out war. Horror stories of hormones, back to the tantrum stage. I am thinking if this happens, surely we will need an exorcism or something? 

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I try to disagree and tell them, no I have a great relationship with my eldest daughter, soon to be twelve. She is a lovely girl, great in school etc. Their reply: ‘it won’t last’. It’s like the horror birth stories people tell you when you’re pregnant for the first time. But every experience is different, every birth story is different. 

So, as I cautiously dip my toe into the next few years with my daughter, I am going to say it is going to be different for me. I do sometimes wish I had my little girl back, but I know it is going entirely in the opposite direction. 

Saying Goodbye To Childhood Traditions

We spend so long as a parent creating a child-friendly fantasy world. Filled with magical experiences and rainbows, even unicorns. We introduce them to the tooth fairy and fairies in general. I mean, fairies move into our house, take over our skirting’s with their fairy doors. With their perfect little gardens and toadstools and washing lines! Rent free mind you! 

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We create a magical experience out of Easter and the Easter Bunny. Mind you, this one has never settled with me, and if I am honest I don’t believe the children ever believed this one either. We play along for the sake of childhood and memories, and a slightly nutty Mammy, ‘Look what the Easter Bunny brought you’. 

Christmas, oh please dear god do not take this one from me, please! This will be her last year I think. My heart is broken already. She has already come to me a good while ago to tell me she does not believe in the tooth fairy anymore. Good timing, because she now has all her adult teeth!
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But still, I was a little shocked. I did ask her was she annoyed or upset that I lied to her about the tooth fairy? Her answer (get the tissues ready people) ‘Mam, you are brilliant at doing the tooth fairy (the money!) in a way you are the tooth fairy, so thank you’. Blubbering mess. 

The door to fantasy childhood is not closed yet for me, thank god. I still have a ten-year-old boy and a six-year-old girl. She is the one I am hanging onto for dear life! When her brother loses a tooth, (he is on a roll lately, with nine ready to fall out according to the dentist), she rushes to set up a fairy town outside his bedroom door, much to his dismay. And a Fairy box especially for the tooth. She wakes early the next morning to make sure the fairies came. So very sweet and innocent. I know he doesn’t believe either but he is making sure he cashes in first! Entrepreneur in the making. 

I do spend time thinking about the different stages the children are at and heading towards, they are growing up far too quickly for my liking. But for now, I am going to enjoy and relish every bit of them that I can. I will throw whatever magical experiences I can into the mix that is their childhood, and when they are older they can sit around as adults and have a giggle at the stories and fantasy I created out of thin air, and the things they believed in.

I know our children are only on loan to us for a short time and we do our very best to help them on their way. They are young and innocent for such a short time and it does make you realise how ephemeral childhood is.  


About the Author

 ‘The Stay at home Mum’

Louise is a full-time writer, blogger and stay at home mum of three. These three are her reason to live but also the reason for her love of a good wine. To describe motherhood Louise would use just these six words Joyous, exhausting, daunting, love, protective, unconditional.   

Louise writes everyday life articles, adult fiction and children’s stories. Louise has successfully written for other publications like Intrigue.ie and The M Word.

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