Infertility: How To Cope When You're Not Able To Conceive
Getting the news that you won’t be able to conceive a baby, might be the saddest news you ever get in your life.
Approximately one in six Irish couples will have difficulty conceiving on their own which means they will have to get some help and advice from their doctor.
But apart from feeling disappointed and maybe angry, you might also feel embarrassed and ashamed. Read on to find out why you should try not to feel shame.
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Why Am I Embarrassed?
People often classify infertility with being “abnormal” and that it don’t fit in with nowadays’ stereotypes.
You might feel like it’s your fault that you can’t conceive and therefore hide it from everyone in fear that you might be judged.
According to a study done by VHI almost one in four (23%) women feel the stigma attached to infertility is due to a lack of open discussion about it.
A lack of knowledge about infertility can be scary to people and the misconceptions regarding this can be misleading and cause even more harm.
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Infertility Is Not Your Fault
You can’t blame yourself for something you don’t have control over.
Although there are a lot of talk about whether infertility can be classified as a disease, it’s still important to remember that infertility is a medical condition – just like diabetes or heart disease. Although it’s not your fault, it changes your life. But remember it’s definitely not something to be ashamed of.
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How Can I Overcome My Infertility Shame?
Once you know you’re struggling with infertility, it can be difficult to know how you should feel. You might feel anger, sadness, disbelief, everything all at once and it can be overwhelming.
Here are a few ways to help you cope and overcome your infertility shame:
- Allow yourself to release this emotion – If you’re angry, find a way to express that frustration by hitting a ball against a wall, shouting in your pillow or going for a run. If you’re sad, it’s okay to cry. And cry your heart out. It’s important that you address and deal with these feelings which should bring some relief.
- Educate yourself – There are a lot of myths and misconceptions to find online about infertility. Therefore it’s important to seek ou relevant information from a trustworthy source which can give more clarity on you personal situation and enable you to develop a plan. Talk to your doctor, reach out to others who’ve gone through similar experiences and find a community online.
- Talk about your situation – The more you talk about infertility, the easier – and more normal – it becomes. If you’re struggling to talk to someone about it, try to write about it in journals, songs, poetry or express yourself through art. It’s okay. You are not alone.
- Seek professional help – There are a lot of people out there willing to help you get over what you are going through now. The most important thing to remember is to not feel ashamed about your infertility and that you’re not alone. Contact Nurture Charity if you need some professional help: 085 861 9585 or email@example.com .
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