Sex and Conception
The relationship between sex and conception goes far deeper than the obvious.
Of course, you must have sex in order to become pregnant. However, for couples who are actively trying to conceive, there are several common traps to avoid when it comes to intimacy.
Here, we'll give you some guidelines for sex while trying to conceive. Remember that every couple is different. While some seem to become pregnant at the drop of a hat, it's not uncommon to try unsuccessfully for up to a year. If it's been more than a year and you're still not pregnant, experts recommend seeing a doctor to rule out fertility issues.
While many couples begin regulating their intimacy when they start trying to conceive, this is a mistake. Women ovulate at different times from month to month, regardless of what your ovulation calendar might say. Factors such as diet or stress can affect a woman's menstrual cycle and ovulation. If you're only having sex on pre-determined days, you may very well miss out on the days you're actually able to conceive.
To avoid this, many experts recommend that couples have sex a minimum of three times per week while they are trying to conceive. This covers the entire month, ensuring that whenever a woman ovulates, there will be live sperm present to fertilize the egg. Relax!
Perhaps the most important thing a couple can do in regards to sex, when trying to conceive is to slow down and relax. Far too many couples take all the romance out of intimacy by creating schedules and calendars. While these are useful tools for predicting and tracking ovulation, they shouldn't be over-used. When intimacy becomes a job, instead of an enjoyable act, both partners are likely to lose interest quickly.
Losing interest in sex is not only a rather depressing situation, but it's actually a hindrance to conception! Experts have long understood that when either partner is significantly stressed, the couple is less likely to conceive. Stress lowers fertility in men and women.
In men, tension can dramatically reduce the production of testosterone, which is primarily responsible for sex drive. It also heightens levels of several hormones which contribute to a generally negative mindset. Even worse, it lowers sperm production. Not only will a man be uninterested in sex, but when he does force himself, he'll be less likely to produce viable sperm. It's a lose-lose situation.
In women, the effects are similar. Hormones responsible for pleasure and overall sex drive decrease, and toxic stress hormones abound. This makes a women uninterested in sex, even put off by the idea. It also puts the body in a state of high tension. When in this state, reproduction is the last thing the body is concerned with, and so conception is highly unlikely. Don't make this mistake.
Slow down, relax and enjoy each other. If you've already found that your intimacy has dwindled, shake things up a bit. Go out and have fun, like you did long before conception was a concern. You'll have more interest in sex if you can see each other as you did when you first met, and that happy, relaxed feeling will lead to a higher chance of conception.
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