How To Take Control Of Your Infertility
You’ve been trying for months and months to get pregnant without any success. This has put a strain on your relationship and it might feel like you’re drifting apart.
Trying for a baby can take its toll on a couple. For this reason, it’s very important to take a ‘time-out’ and really focus on you as a couple again.
The National Infertility Support & Information Group (NISIG) has some tips on how you can take control of your infertility and become the couple you once were before trying for a baby.
Enjoy Sex Again
You might be tracking your menstrual cycle like crazy to know exactly when you’re ovulating.
But having sex on demand can later become a chore and lead to neither of you enjoying it anymore.
Have sex for fun again. Be spontaneous and try different things than what you’re used to. Having sex for fun again – also during the non-fertile times – will strengthen your relationship.
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Approach The Infertility Problem Together
The day you decided you want to try for a baby, was the day you became a parenting team – you are a unity.
Just because you’re having problems conceiving doesn’t mean either of you should approach this problem alone. You’re in this together. Be supportive and know you can rely on each other.
Do Your Homework
There are a lot of myths and lies about infertility. Don’t listen to the first person or website that tells you you’ll never get pregnant. Do your own homework and seek information from trustworthy sources.
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Keep The Lines Of Communication Open With Your Partner
One of you might retract from all communication with your partner once you’re going through this difficult time. But this is the time where communication between the two of you is crucial. You’re in this together which means that you know exactly what the other person is going through. Talk to each other about it and get the emotion out there. If you keep it all to yourself, it can cause bigger problems for you and your relationship.
Don’t Be Afraid To Talk To Others Who Have Undergone Fertility Treatment
Who is there better to talk to than someone who experienced what you’re experiencing now? Reach out to couples that have undergone fertility treatment and ask them what made them decide to do it. Were they disappointed? What would they have done differently?
Don’t Dwell On The Short-Term Ups And Downs Of The Treatment
There are going to be a lot of ups and downs. But don’t dwell on them. Talk to each other about why you’re feeling like you do and ask your partner how you can support him/her. Keep each other focused on your end goal.
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Consider Taking Time Off From Treatment If It Becomes Overwhelming
You might be experiencing a lot of emotions, including hope and disappointment. If you get overwhelmed by it all, take a break from it. Take time to get yourself together and, if you want to, go back and do it again. Nobody can force you to do anything you don’t want to anymore and you don’t have to be ashamed of anything.
Seek emotional support from a professional
If you feel like you’re not getting the necessary support, you’re getting too overwhelmed or your partner can’t help you anymore, seek out professional help. The same goes for your partner. If you feel like a professional is the best option to help you through this difficult time, seek help. Don’t be ashamed.
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