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Hi girls
I had a miscarriage on the 15th Jan and we have decided to try again.
Anyone else trying again[?][?]
I didnt need a D&C thank god.
Stopped bleeding on the 24th so hopefully my first AF is on the way soon so that we know everything is back to normal.
The only thing is I am having a lot of pregnancy symptoms for the last week like; nausea, heartburn, tirdness, dizzy spells. Not sure what these are from, I did a test to make sure all the HCG was gone and test was negative so Im just wondering is it normal to feel like this after a loss???
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Hi There
I had a loss and D&C 29th Dec.
The past 3 weeks i have been having several symptoms in fact i even took another pg test last night - knowing I am not pregnant because AF visited 9 days ago - I feel like a freak! LOL but now i dont feel so bad... knowing i am not alone.
We are planning on getting back up on that old horse and trying again quite soon - fingers crossed for us.
I was happy to get trying again in September/Oct last when we had our first MC and i got pregnant very quick. Some people told me it was too soon, but what do other people know in what goes on in our lives?
My GP told me that i could try when i wanted, give my body time - that the body is very good at getting back to normal and she recommended one AF before trying again. Some hospitals recommend 3 months if it was a harrowing experience - but most say try when you are ready.
One friend of mine who had a mc over christmas said it would be a year before she can face it again.
Hats off to you for wanting to try again - i know how that feels and it is fun... [:I]
The symptoms can be explained easily enough - just make sure you are not anemic and wait patiently for AF.
Just eat well, and take it easy for the 10 days after you ovulate and then play the waiting game.
Good luck in your quest and sorry to hear about your news - its so common its sad.
[:(]
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Hi laoismomtobe
Thank you for replying, like you I now dont feel so crazy having these symptoms [:0]
I am so sorry about your two losses, one is bad I couldnt imagine going through it twice.
Its four weeks tomorrow since our loss so we are hoping AF will return soon so we can start trying again.
I think the hardest part at the moment is when I think how many weeks I should be now and what stage the baby would be at [:(]
I hope you are coping ok and hopefully we will both be getting more BFP's very soon [:)]
Make sure to keep me updated [;)]
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hi girls, i know how you's are feelin, i had a loss oct 07 and i just couldnt get it all out of my head, doc told me to wait six months before ttc again, and on new yers eve 07 found out i was expecting again, ive now a 6month little girl.
asil2 i know what your sayin, i was the same in thinking of the date my first baby should be born etc,
my dp got me a little angel that i keep on my bookshelf, not big just a little something to know ill never forget and still in my thoughts.. i find it helps
i hope all goes well for you both :-D
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Ah girls, like ye im ttc again after a miscarricage. Mine was in october, really want to be pregnant again by the due date, 29th of may but it seems to be fast approaching and no luck yet. We started trying straight after nearly. My twins were born in oct 07 after 3 years waiting and fertility treatment, couldnt believe then last year that id managed to get pg naturally, so was hoping after mc it might happen again with the pg hormones etc.
6 friends and family have had babies in the last 3 months, delighted for them of course but really really want to be pregnant again.
Good luck to you asil and laoismum2be
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Hi ladies, i miscarried last month, i was only 6 weeks and they thought it was ectopic so had a laparoscopy to investigate and they then did a D&C. I have not had my periods return yet and was wondering how long it took for any of you? I really want to try again sooner rather than later but DH is not feeling the same I think he found the whole experience of me in hospital for a week and the surgery very hard to deal with. Ive spoken to a few friends who have gone through it and some say they waited till the due date passed others were pregnant within a month !! I guess it differs with everyone.... Best of luck to each of you [:)]
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Hi catherine i got my nest af 6 weeks after the misscarriage but im kinda irregular anyway. sorry to hear about your loss and id say dh will come around. mine has swung from wanting to try again to wanting to wait to not wanting to take any more risks to back to wanting one again and round and round!
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Hi Naillij, thats men for you [:)] sure they just dont know what they want hee hee.... I think he will come around again to it too given a little bit of time.....
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Hi all, I had two MC's very close together in Aug and Dec of last year and had D&C on both, am now approaching 12 weeks this coming weekend. Back to hospital on Monday for check up and think it will not come fast enough, although had scan at 8 weeks and everything appeared OK. There is light and hope for all but it is not easy.
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Hey mothers maisden name, it sounds like everything is going great for you this time round, im sorry to hear about your 2 mc's and i know it means that it will be very hard to relax on this pg but hopefully all will be well.
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Mothers Maiden Name. As Naillij said, congrats and i hope you can relax a little and enjoy, im sure its really hard to do have gone through the MCs but i too hope ill be on the road to another bump in the not too distant future !
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Hey girls
Really sorry to hear about your MC's [:(]
Mothers maiden name that is great that you are pregnant again....fingers crossed all will be ok for you this time.
I know it must be really hard for you to relax and enjoy the pregnancy at the moment but hopefully things will get easier soon xx
Well its CD 19 for me at the moment so hopefully in 2weeks time i will have some good news [;)]
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Hello,
I just had a m/c Friday the 13th! I was never superstitious til now!! I had my first m/c in October. Neither times did I have a d&C as on ultrasound I was ok and everything was gone! I am worried now in case there is something still there causing problems and that the next p/g will also result in loss! Anyone else experience this? Thanks
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ah liz very sorry to hear that, ive only had the one mc in october and didnt need d&c so cant really help you there. but i do think if anything is left behind it would cause an infection so you would know about it. How far gone were you? hopefully it was just bad luck that it happened tp you twice and next time will be a healthy pg for you.
got my af this weekend so a 6 week cycle again, so hopefully will be ov in 4 weeks. really want to be pg by 29th may which woukd have been my due date
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Hi liz sorry to hear that!! You should probably talk to you GP if you are really worried that there is something but as Naillij said above i think if there was you would be aware of it. I know i had my last serious of bloods taken last week and they came back at HCG 7 which is consider "nil" and that the D&C removed everything, maybe they could do a blood test for you and get your hormone levels to put your mind at ease. You know having just gone through a m/c your mind really works hard at figuring out what went wrong and why and really there is not definite answer. These things happen for some reason but that is very much out of our control. Hopefully you will get some peace of mind and be able to start trying again and have a sucessful pg again.
Naillij, AF is back so best of luck on reaching that 29th may - that was my 20 weeks scan date so ill be thinking of you, im finding hard to forget all these dates, that were in the diary, had a hard weekend of it, i think i was having a little down period, very teary Sat and my mind was all over the place.... i guess it just hits you a different times [:(] Had been having a lot of cramps for the last 2-3 weeks but a friend of mine removed the stitch in my belly button ( from laparoscopy) on Sat) and i think that has actually helped it had tightened a lot.... Waitin on AF to return, had a little bleed over the last few days but seems to have disappeared again... its only 3 weeks so i guess it will be a while yet....
Happy Paddys Days to you all.... in the parade tomorrow with my DD so that will be fun.... [:)] Anybody else participating...
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Hey girls
Hope you are all keeping well after Paddys Day. We went to Galway from Mon-Thurs and had a fab time.
Liz I am so sorry for your loss, once is hard, I can only imagine having to go through it twice [:(]
When I had my MC in Jan I wasnt even scanned.....they said my HCG levels were low enough to know that everything was ok.
As the girls said already, you would know about it if you hadnt passed everything as you would get an infection.
Fingers crossed that next time is lucky for you xx
Well it CD 26 for me of a 33-35day cycle so not due AF til next weekend.
The thing is though, i am having brown/pink spotting the last few days with really bad cramps as if AF is going to show up.
I had this on my other pregnancies too but I dont want to get too hopeful yet [8)]
Also it is my first month using OPK's but I didnt get any positive so I dont know what to think [8]
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Hi Ladies,
Liz, talk to your doctor, because i was paranoid the first time i miscarried butin the end i got an infeciton anyway and ended up in hospital,
As for due dates - both of mine are approaching fast may 17th and July 19th and its starting to get to me - I was planning on being p regnant but nothing yet. I have exams the week before 17th May and I was hoping the studies would take my mind off it - no hope!
Ah well, ladies, sorry for your losses, and Mothers Maiden Name - you give me so much hope - because i think i am just jinxed - :-)
Take care,
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Hi Ladies, well the tears hit again this week, its a month yesterday since i had my miscarriage, but DH was very supportive lots of hugs and comfort, i think as well AF is about to arrive, dreading it... not sure why but maybe its a sort of a final sign that everything is finished and its back to the start again [:(]..... DH still not sure he wants to try again, i thought he had sort of just let it go but he mentioned it again the other day and said right at the minute he just doesnt want a baby!!! I find it very hard to take as i want to start trying again and have not gone back on the pill..... heres hoping he will come around ....
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Hi Catherine, dont know what to say as it does get easier but I still hve weepy days, especially when i read other peoples stories and it brings it back. off to Frankfurt tomorrow for weeknd as its dhs bday. Know its too soon after af to ttc (2 weeks-would be perfect of id a 4 week cycle!) but u never know!
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Hi Naillij, enjoy your weekend and sure you never know!! Take care and have fun [:)]....
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Catherine Im sure your DH will change his mind its still early days and I think we seem to forget that it affects them aswell as ourselves.....maybe he is just scared of it happening again [:(] next month (or even next week) may be different, fingers crossed [8]
Naillij have a great weekend and Happy Birthday to your DH [;)] and hopefully you ov early this month....no harm in trying anyway [:p]
CD 31 for me and still no sign of AF, it could be anywhere between CD30 & 35 though so im planning on testing on Sunday if theres still no sign of it [:D]
Chat to you later girls
XX
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Asil 2 - I know i think that is probably whats wrong - the fear of seeing me going through all of that again, and obviously him too..... fingers crossed as you say, going to sort of wing if for the moment!!!
What does CD stand for? From reading ur post it no doubt that your waiting on AF so its related to that???
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CD is cycle day so its 31days since the first day of my last AF [:)]
It must be hard for them too to watch us go through it, i know my DH didnt know what to say or do but I know he was upset himself.
He is all ready for it now again though....but I know whenever we get a BFP again he will be just as scared as I am [:0]
Just tell you DH that you would love to try again whenever he is ready.
Maybe tell him you are not going back on the pill though and then contraception will be in his hands [;)]
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Asil - that should have been obvious shouldnt it !!! Blonde moment hee hee [:D]
I like your thinking, I kinda hinted that that would have to be the alternative to the pill cause i didnt really want to have to be going back on and then waiting and then coming back off.....made it sound like an awful lot of work so i hope it pays off.... looks like my cycle is back spot on 28 days today since my MC so i will have to just quietly be working out my ovulation dates and see what happens [;)] .... If i really thought he didnt want another i wouldnt dream of it but i do think its just the fear of dealing with it again as he really was into the idea of having another baby when i got pregnant and our DD is the apple of his eye despite huge reservations before she was conceived!
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Thanks girls im sure we will enjoy weekend.
Definetly think if your dh, catherine is anything like mine its the fear of us and them going through that pain again if anything went wrong.
I did the same as suggested...told dh when he was going through a not wanting to try again phase,and we were about to head to barcelona for my birthday thatt he better make a trip to the chemist. for what he asked? condoms of course i said. if he dsidnt want another baby that was fine but i wasnt going on the pill so.... haha he hates condoms...
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Or another way to make him change his mind is.....DD will be very lonely as an only child or wouldnt you love to try for a son [;)] (thats if its only the one ye have)
Im sure he will change his mind and if he doesnt he will more then likely get sick of being in charge or contraception and take a chance [:D]
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Hi Naillij we posted the same time there [:D]
I think they all hate wearing them which works out good in a way [;)]
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Thanks girls!! Sounds like a plan.....
Asil 2 - Yes just one little girl she is just 3!!
To be honest im 37 and i really dont want to thinking about trying for no 2 in a years time, just from an energy perspective, you do forget about those middle of the night feeds and all the rountine that goes with it and also she is 3 and i rather not have too big a gap.... finger crossed of course that i can get pregnant again, to be honest i got pgnt really quickly on both occasions as im very luck to be really regular so it was easy to count ovulation dates.... thanks for all your advice im going to relax a bit about it and just sort of see what happens with him.....
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Asil 2 - you and i posted there together too..... are nt we awful devious us women!! [:D] or maybe we spend too much time doing everything for our men.... give them one little responsibility and oops.... pregnant (Hopefully!)
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Devious......us women???? no no no we just do what has to be done [:p] [:p] [:D]
Nothing to do with us planning it all from the start [}:)] [;)]
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